Miracles Online Podcast – Episode 56

People rarely fall out of love the way they describe it.
It’s not a sudden drop.
It’s not an accidental slip.
It’s not something that “just happens.”

More often, it’s a slow drift — a dozen small moments where we stop showing up, stop engaging, stop trying, and then disguise the fatigue as fate.

In Episode 56 of the Miracles Online Podcast, Jeff and KAT explore what really lies behind the phrase:

“Sorry… I fell out of love.”

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It sounds innocent. It sounds elegant. But beneath it is often avoidance, numbness, resentment, or a withdrawal of effort long before the heart truly faded.

This episode is not about blame.
It’s about clarity.

Because relationships don’t collapse from lack of love —
they collapse from lack of participation.

The Myth of “Falling Out of Love”

Jeff and KAT remind us that in a long-term relationship, you will not feel one static version of love forever. Feelings rise and fall. Seasons shift. Passion evolves into depth. Depth becomes trust. Trust becomes history.

Love isn’t a spark. It’s a simmer.
Like a good chili or stew, it becomes richer with time.
The flavors deepen. The connection thickens.
But only if it is tended.

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Many people call the loss of early “sizzle” a loss of love —
when in truth, love has simply changed form.

Why People Use the Line “I Fell Out of Love”

Jeff and KAT break it down clearly:

1. You stopped showing up.

You stopped doing the little things: notes, flowers, appreciation, tenderness.
Love starves when these stop.

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2. You numbed out.

You became emotionally absent — distracted, disconnected, overwhelmed.
Numbness feels safer than vulnerability.

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3. You avoided the work.

Love requires maintenance.
It requires truth.
It requires courage.
Many simply retreat instead.
(Enter the legendary mantra: FTFJ — Fuel the Freaking Jet.)

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4. You avoided discomfort and called it clarity.

Avoidance wears many masks: silence, distraction, resentment, distance.
People mistake these for “truth,” but they’re just unspoken fear.

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5. You never understood the depth of love in the first place.

If you only ever swam in the shallow end, you’ll believe depth doesn’t exist.
Many have never learned to receive or give love beyond the surface.

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6. You abandoned yourself first.

Self-abandonment becomes relationship abandonment.
You cannot stay connected to someone else if you are disconnected from your own truth.

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7. You lacked courage.

It takes zero courage to say “I fell out of love.”
It takes profound courage to say:

• “I’m scared.”

• “I’m hurt.”

• “I don’t know how to fix this.”

• “I need help.”

• “Can we find our way back?”

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Action Items from Episode 56

These are the transformational exercises Jeff and KAT gave during the show.

Use them to reconnect, realign, or simply gain clarity about where you stand.

1️⃣ Action Item — Identify the Story vs. the Truth

Complete this prompt:

“What story am I telling about my relationship, and what truth might be hiding beneath it?”

Often the story is soothing, but the truth is corrective.
This single question can reveal everything.

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2️⃣ Action Item — Revive One Loving Behavior You Stopped Doing

Think of one thing you used to do that made your partner feel seen or loved:

• A note

• A compliment

• A touch

• A morning gesture

• A thoughtful habit

Bring just one of them back this week.
Consistency resurrects connection.

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3️⃣ Action Item — Complete This Sentence

“Love feels alive in me when I put effort into ________.”

Not when someone else tries.
When you participate.
This reinstalls accountability.

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4️⃣ Action Item — The 10-Minute Courage Conversation

Each partner shares:

• One fear

• One hope

Rules:

• No interruption

• No defending

• No fixing

• No counter-arguments

Just witnessing.
This is one of the fastest ways to restore intimacy.

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The Truth Beneath the Exit Line

The episode closes with a poetic revelation:

“We don’t fall out of love like slipping off a ledge.
We drift in small unspoken miles.”

And Jeff adds the deepest truth of all:

Love ends only when we stop choosing it.
And begins again the moment we choose to show up.

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Final Invitation

Before you decide your relationship is over, try the action items.
Try the conversation.
Try the effort.

And remember:

FTFJ — Fuel the Freaking Jet.

Effort is the oxygen of love

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