Miracles Online Podcast – Episode 44

Speaking Different Languages

Welcome back to the Miracles Online Podcast. We’re here to dive into the world of love, communication, and relationships. I’m Jeff, and I’m joined by my wife and co-host, Kat. Today’s theme comes from Kat: Speaking Different Languages.

Before we begin, a quick thank-you to our sponsors: Kingdom Mindset Strategies, offering business consulting grounded in Christian values; George Lewis’s Astrology Class, beginning in October; and of course, HeartSpace Hypnosis, Kat’s practice for personal transformation.

Kat shared how her path into hypnosis began decades ago—breaking free from smoking, healing inner wounds, and overcoming medical challenges that traditional medicine couldn’t solve. That journey led her to train and certify in hypnosis, NLP, RTT, and mindset coaching. Today she helps others rewrite the outdated “software” of their lives with custom audio sessions that deeply transform.

I’ve experienced her sports enhancement hypnosis firsthand. One session shifted my batting average in competitive baseball from below .300 to .500, simply by aligning my subconscious with peak performance. The key, as Kat explains, is listening consistently—especially before sleep when the mind is most receptive.

Love, Language, and Communication

Kat tells a story from our early marriage. Excited to be with a bilingual husband who spoke Mandarin, she tried to learn the language herself. But Mandarin felt too complex compared to Spanish or French, so she gave up after learning just a few phrases—including one she still treasures: “Wo ai ni, wo de laogong” (“I love you, my husband”).

That story sparks the deeper question: have you ever felt you and your partner were speaking completely different languages, even though you were both using English?

We explored several common divides:

• Direct vs. Indirect Communication. Sometimes people expect their partner to “just know,” while others value blunt clarity.

• Body Language and Intuition. From Kat’s grandparents—who fell in love without sharing a spoken language—to modern relationships, nonverbal cues remain powerful.

• Mirroring and Matching. Borrowed from sales training, this technique helps build rapport by aligning tone, cadence, and body language with the person you’re speaking to.

Reframing and Listening

True connection isn’t about being right—it’s about being love. By reframing what your partner says—“If I’m hearing you right, you’re saying…”—you create space for deeper understanding. That pause allows emotions to settle and clarity to emerge.

Arguments often spiral because neither person feels heard. Reframing and mirroring show genuine listening. As we said in the episode: “You can be right, or you can be love. Being right just leaves you lonely.”

Diffusing Conflict

When emotions run high, don’t escalate. Instead:

• Pause.

• Acknowledge what you see: “I can tell you’re upset. That wasn’t my intention.”

• Apologize sincerely, even if you didn’t mean harm.

• Reframe the issue to show you truly want to understand.

This shifts the energy from combativeness to compassion.

Fast vs. Slow Thinkers

Some people process quickly and decide on the spot; others need reflection. Both approaches are valid. Recognizing differences—emotional vs. logical, fast vs. slow—creates harmony instead of friction.

Closing Reflection

We ended with a poem:

Your words arrive like rivers, fast and certain, cutting stone.
Mine just drift in tides and pauses, carrying meaning in the undertow.
We’re not broken, only tuned to different rhythms.
And when we choose to listen, a hidden harmony appears.
Love doesn’t need one language.
It needs two hearts, both willing to translate.

That is the miracle of speaking different languages in love.