There is something people don’t talk about enough when it comes to love, relationships, and dating.
Energy.
Not just chemistry.
Not just attraction.
Not just compatibility.
Energy. Frequency. Vibration.
And whether you realize it or not — you are broadcasting it every single day.
In this episode, Jeff and Kat explore how mindset, subconscious programming, emotional healing, and personal growth all influence the kind of relationships you attract into your life.
Because love isn’t random.
It’s responsive.
Living by Design — Not by Default
Kat shares how her work — from mindset coaching to hypnosis — is rooted in helping people understand one powerful truth:
Most of your behavior is driven by the subconscious.
Roughly 95% of what we think, say, and do runs on autopilot.
That means if someone believes:
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“I’m not good enough.”
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“I don’t deserve love.”
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“Relationships don’t work for me.”
Those beliefs will quietly shape their reality — even when they consciously want something different.
Many people searching for love aren’t blocked by circumstance.
They’re blocked by programming.
And that programming can be rewritten.
Don’t Believe Every Thought You Have
One of the most important insights from this conversation:
Not every thought you have is true.
Many thoughts come from:
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Childhood conditioning
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Past rejection
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Cultural messaging
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Trauma
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Fear
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Old survival patterns
These internal narratives often convince people they don’t deserve love, success, or happiness.
But those stories are learned — not permanent.
And they can be changed.
The Self-Examination That Changes Everything
Growth begins with courage.
Kat describes the process as “taking the sheet off” — looking honestly at your life, habits, and patterns.
Because what we don’t deal with… deals with us.
Sometimes that shows up as:
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Overworking
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Drinking
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Emotional numbing
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Compulsive behaviors
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Distractions
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Relationship cycles
These behaviors aren’t random — they’re signals that something deeper needs attention.
And when people start healing, something remarkable happens:
Their energy changes.
Jeff’s Turning Point — The Rebirth Moment
Jeff shares how a profound personal transformation in his late twenties changed his ability to receive love.
Before that shift:
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Dating felt surface-level
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Connections lacked intimacy
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Relationships didn’t satisfy
After confronting fear, guilt, and emotional blocks, something opened.
He describes it like becoming spiritually aligned — almost like being reborn.
And only then did he become capable of attracting and sustaining the relationship he truly wanted.
Not because the world changed.
Because he did.
Attraction Is Not “Woo-Woo” — It’s Alignment
The conversation dives into the idea that emotional states carry measurable energetic impact.
Jeff references research such as Dr. Masaru Emoto’s water experiments, showing how intention and emotion influence physical structure.
Whether someone interprets this scientifically or spiritually, the takeaway is clear:
Your internal state affects your external experiences.
Thoughts are not neutral.
They carry energy.
And relationships respond to that energy.
Relationships Require Readiness — Not Just Desire
A major insight from the episode:
Wanting love is not enough.
You must be ready for love.
That readiness includes:
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Self-worth
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Emotional stability
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Personal responsibility
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Growth mindset
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Commitment capacity
Without those elements, even the right partner can feel wrong.
Because the timing isn’t aligned.
The First Year — Testing the Edges
Jeff and Kat discuss something many couples experience but rarely admit:
The early stage of a relationship can be challenging.
It’s a period of:
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Boundary testing
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Emotional adjustment
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Identity merging
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Habit negotiation
They describe it as the “getting to know you” phase — where each person asks subconsciously:
Are you here for the long haul?
Their commitment was simple:
“No quits.”
And that decision shaped everything that followed.
Love Is a Decision — Not Just a Feeling
One of the most powerful statements from Kat:
People often say they “fell in love.”
But a more accurate description might be:
They decided to love.
Love grows when it is fed.
It deepens when people choose:
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Patience
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Understanding
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Support
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Loyalty
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Growth together
Real relationships are built — not stumbled into.
Two Whole People — Not Two Half People
Another key distinction:
Healthy relationships are not about completion.
They are about expansion.
Kat explains she wasn’t looking for someone to complete her — and didn’t want to complete someone else.
She wanted someone whole.
Together, they would become more than whole.
That mindset creates partnership instead of dependency.
Building a Life Together
Jeff also shares the practical side of love.
They didn’t just want connection.
They wanted a shared life:
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Travel
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Freedom
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Experiences
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Financial stability
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Time together
That required strategy, career changes, and growth.
Love alone wasn’t enough.
Vision mattered.
The Butterfly Effect of Love
The episode closes with a beautiful reflection from Kat:
A butterfly flapping its wings can shift weather across the world.
What if the same is true in relationships?
A small moment — a decision to heal, to grow, to reach out, to believe in your worth — can change your entire future.
You may never see all the consequences.
But the universe does.
Love isn’t random.
It’s orchestrated through choices, energy, and timing.
And sometimes…
One small step becomes the beginning of something miraculous.
Your miracle online.
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