How Do You Love? A Quick Attachment Style Quiz
Choose the answer that best reflects how you usually feel or behave in romantic relationships.
1. When you’re in a relationship, how do you feel about emotional closeness?
A. I enjoy it and feel comfortable with it.
B. I crave it but worry my partner may not feel the same.
C. I feel uneasy when things get too close.
D. I both want it and fear it at the same time.
2. When your partner doesn’t call or text back quickly, how do you feel?
A. I assume they’re busy and I’ll hear from them soon.
B. I worry they’re upset or losing interest.
C. I try not to care and distract myself.
D. I panic but pretend like I don’t care.
3. How do you usually respond to conflict in a relationship?
A. I communicate calmly and try to work through it.
B. I feel overwhelmed and need reassurance.
C. I withdraw or shut down.
D. I argue intensely or ghost, then regret it.
4. Do you ever fear abandonment in relationships?
A. Rarely or never.
B. Often—I constantly fear being left.
C. I don’t think about it much, I’m more focused on independence.
D. Yes, but I usually hide those fears.
5. How comfortable are you depending on your partner?
A. Very comfortable—it feels natural.
B. I worry they’ll let me down, but I still try.
C. I’d rather not depend on anyone.
D. I depend on them emotionally but feel like I can’t fully trust them.
6. When your partner expresses love or affection, how do you respond?
A. I receive it easily and reciprocate.
B. I question whether they really mean it.
C. I may pull away or feel smothered.
D. I love it, but I wonder when it will be taken away.
7. Do you often replay or overanalyze conversations with your partner?
A. Not really—I move on easily.
B. All the time—I fear I said or did something wrong.
C. Rarely—I try to avoid overthinking.
D. I do, but I never let anyone know I’m doing it.
8. In the early stages of dating, how do you behave?
A. Open and balanced—I enjoy getting to know them.
B. I become quickly attached and feel anxious.
C. I take it slow and keep my guard up.
D. I’m hot and cold—intense, then distant.
9. How would your exes describe your emotional availability?
A. Supportive and present.
B. Needy or overly sensitive.
C. Distant or hard to reach.
D. Unpredictable or emotionally intense.
10. What’s your biggest fear in love?
A. Losing a good thing due to bad communication.
B. Not being enough or being abandoned.
C. Losing freedom or being controlled.
D. Loving someone who ends up hurting or leaving me.
Scoring Key: Find Your Attachment Style
• Mostly A’s – Secure Attachment
You’re comfortable with intimacy, balanced in independence, and trusting. You communicate well and generally form healthy relationships.
• Mostly B’s – Anxious Attachment
You crave closeness but often worry you’re not loved or will be abandoned. You may become preoccupied with your partner’s signals and need frequent reassurance.
• Mostly C’s – Avoidant Attachment
You value independence and may avoid closeness. You tend to pull away when things get too intimate or when you feel vulnerable.
• Mostly D’s – Disorganized/Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
You long for connection but fear it at the same time. You may behave unpredictably in relationships—pushing partners away while also fearing abandonment.